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Elaine Adams

I was in class and heard that it was a substitute teacher, it was math class.  I walked in to class and saw a woman dressed to the hilt like it was thirty years prior.  Cat glasses.  Heels.  Everything was a flashback from the fifties.  And me, not being able to hear, was fixated on the flashback.  And excruciatingly aware of how bad the rest of my classmates were treating her.

My classmates also treated me badly, I was the lowest on the pecking order.  Bullied quite a bit.  High school sucked.  So I empathized with Ms. Adams.  She’d teach for a couple days, then the regular teacher would come back.

The students were horrible to her.  I think because she was several decades behind, appearance/fashion wise.  So stupid.  I saw her  close to tears several times.  I reached out to her.  As, just, “I’m as demonized as you are.”

I was just trying to survive.  It surprised me when she took me under her wing.  She took me to mother/daughter events.  She showed an interest in my success.


I struggled in math.  She tutored me.


She had no daughter.  I went with her to the mother/daughter event at her church.


My brother told me that NASA would call her and she’d do math problems that nobody else could figure out.


Sabrina called me and I saw Elaine in myself.

I mentored Sabrina.


I looked her up today and found out she had died in 2014.  I also found out that she was quite the philanthropist.  And that she took a special interest in women and girls succeeding in math.


Was she a lesbian?


It doesn’t matter if she was a lesbian or not, she loved and wanted girls to succeed.


Happy Mothers Day, Elaine!

From your adopted daughter, Kathy.
I made it.  Hopefully I can help others as you helped me.

3 thoughts on “Elaine Adams

  1. Touching. I never understood why kids wanted to bully the smart kids (and clearly smart adults as well).

    People tried with me in school, but I’m a witty firecracker and had a temper to boot. They quickly learned to keep their opinions to themselves. LoL. Violence isn’t always the answer, but the threat of violence after you’ve made your point certainly helps to keep the peace!

    I hope you still keep in touch with Elaine!

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